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EVERYDAY LEADERS: EMPATHY

“When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That’s when you can get more creative in solving problems.” – Stephen Covey

This year I am focusing on everyday leaders. Not those who hold a formal position of authority, but those of us who, through our behaviors, have the ability to influence and inspire those around us just by being us. This is the second installment of articles that focus on one specific behavior that can make a huge difference in our ability to impact the lives of others.

This month I want to talk about empathy. What does empathy have to do with being an everyday leader? It is the empathy of everyday leaders that disarms the defensive and negative attitudes of those around them. It shows the support and understanding that lifts spirits and gives strength when the going gets tough. So, what does empathy look like in everyday leadership?

Seeing through the eyes of others:

It’s easy to see things only from your point of view. When you take the time to see situations and circumstances through the eyes of others, you are better able to understand where they are coming from; why they have the opinions they have, and what factors may be impacting their attitudes and actions. Seeing things from our own perspective leads to biased opinions, actions, and decisions. So many conflicts and misunderstandings stem from an inability to see things from different perspectives. When we develop and exercise this skill, we gain the trust and respect of those we work with. They know that we are able to be unbiased in our evaluation of them and their situation.

Stepping in their shoes:

Just like seeing through the eyes of others, stepping in their shoes gives us a better understanding of who they are. It is easy to judge and make assumptions from the outside looking in; standing in someone else’s shoes can put things in perspective. We never know what someone is going through until we take the time to really find out. When we put forth the time and effort to gain insight into someone else’s inner world, it shows we care. And, everyone needs to know that they are worth caring about.

Setting an example of courage and support:

We all have moments when we feel weak and alone. Everyday leaders truly empathize with others; they show the courage to stand by and support those who need it the most. Their example sets the tone for others to follow. Imagine how every member of a team can thrive when there is an environment of support and understanding.

Empathy allows us to help set others up for success. Everyone struggles, faces obstacles, and feels excluded on occasion. Everyday leaders create an environment of inclusion and support where every member of the team can succeed. Through their empathy, everyday leaders make an impact on the lives of those around them.

How can you start showing empathy today?

 

 

© 2018 Liz Stincelli

 

I am passionate about recognizing and inspiring the leader in each of us. I am the Founder of Stincelli Advisors where I focus on helping organizations change attitudes, change communication dynamics, improve collaboration and problem-solving, engage employees, and strengthen organizational culture. I hold a Doctor of Management degree with an emphasis on organizational leadership.

Learn more about me by visiting my website, stincelliadvisors.com and connect with me on Twitter @infinitestin, Google+, and LinkedIn. You can contact me by email at stincelliadvisors@gmail.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

EVERYDAY LEADERS: COURAGE

“Success in not final; failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill

This year I want to focus on everyday leaders. Not those who hold a formal position of authority, but those of us who, through our behaviors, have the ability to influence and inspire those around us just by being us. Each month I will post an article focused on one specific behavior that can make a huge difference in our ability to impact the lives of others.

This month I want to talk about courage. What does courage have to do with being an everyday leader? Well, the courage of everyday leaders can help those around them get through the tough times and sets an example of strength and character for others to follow. What does courage look like in everyday leadership?

Standing up for what is right:

Not everyone has the courage to stand up for what is right. This is especially true when it means speaking out when someone in a position of authority is mistaken, wrong, or just being hard-headed. Everyday leaders are willing to put their neck on the line to stand up for what is right even when other team members turn a blind eye.

Persevering under pressure:

We get tired; the pressure starts to wear us down. Persevering under pressure takes courage. When others see us hanging-in-there, they know that they too can do it. Everyday leaders have a positive attitude and know that the stress and pressure will pass in good time. Their outlook helps others to keep their head to the grindstone and push through to the other side.

Picking yourself and others up after failure:

We all hate to fail; it is a blow to our ego. Admitting our mistakes, picking ourselves up, and moving forward takes courage. It takes even more courage to pick someone else up and support them when it is not us who has failed. Everyday leaders find the upside to failure. They admit to mistakes and quickly move on having learned a valuable lesson. They help take the fear of failure out of others so that, while everyone stumbles, no one ends up down for the count.

When even one team member exhibits courage in the face of obstacles, everyone benefits. Everyday leaders stand up for themselves and others, when under pressure they persevere and set an example for others to follow, and they demonstrate that failure is not fatal but an opportunity to grow. Through their courage, everyday leaders make an impact on the lives of those around them.

How can you start being courageous today?

 

 

© 2018 Liz Stincelli

 

I am passionate about recognizing and inspiring the leader in each of us. I am the Founder of Stincelli Advisors where I focus on helping organizations change attitudes, change communication dynamics, improve collaboration and problem-solving, engage employees, and strengthen organizational culture. I hold a Doctor of Management degree with an emphasis on organizational leadership.

Learn more about me by visiting my website, stincelliadvisors.com and connect with me on Twitter @infinitestin, Google+, and LinkedIn. You can contact me by email at stincelliadvisors@gmail.com.